Swipe Left On Perfection

Welcome to S.L.O.P. (Swipe Left On Perfection) – where we embrace the beautifully imperfect journey of life in all shapes and forms. Join me as I navigate the vibrant world of AuDHD awareness, share my raving adventures, and explore the real lessons of love, laughter, and self-acceptance in this wild ride we call being human and “Neurodivergent”.

Here at S.L.O.P., we take a word with a negative meaning of messiness, often used to describe our experiences and instead celebrate our quirks, dance through challenges, and discover that the messiness of life is what makes it worth living. Let’s swipe left on unrealistic expectations and dance to the rhythm of our own authentic selves.

About Me: The Curiosity, the Bass, and the Healing Heart

Welcome to the “Why” of it All.

I’m Shae. 41 years old, and for most of my life, I’ve been a professional “Why” seeker. I’ve always had a relentless curiosity about the mechanics of the soul and the reasons behind the way we move through the world. For a long time, I felt like I was reading a map in a language I didn’t quite speak—until the pieces finally started falling into place.

The Turning Points:

  • 2020: Diagnosed with ADHD at age 35.
  • 2025:Had my heart broken
  • 2025: Hired a new Therapist
  • 2025: Diagnosed with Autism (Level 1) at age 40.

Finding these answers wasn’t about “fixing” myself; it was about finally understanding my own blueprint. It launched me into a deep healing journey and a growth mindset that has changed everything.

Why This Blog?

I created this space for two reasons: to process and to protect.

  1. To Process: This is my digital notebook for a healing heart. I use this space to express myself, share the tips I’ve learned navigating a neurodivergent world, and deconstruct the beauty of a life lived now authentically.
  2. To Protect: I want to help others feel included, loved, and valued for just existing. In a world that demands we “perform” to be worthy, I’m here to tell you that your existence is enough.

When I’m not diving deep into the “whys” of human behavior, you’ll find me under the lights of a rave. or at home reading a book, or at the gym teaching others and myself the importance of fitness. For me, the these spaces are places of healing, safety, and importance to keeping my inner world happy and healthy. A community built on PLUR (Peace, Love, Unity, Respect) where the bass carries the weight so we don’t have to is worth living for.

Is This Space for You?

To keep this a sanctuary for healing hearts, I believe in being clear about the energy we invite in.

🌟 You belong here if…

  • You are Questioning: Whether you suspect you’re neurodivergent or you’re just starting to wonder if there’s a different way to live, you are welcome here.
  • You are a “Late Bloomer”: You’re rewriting your history after an adult diagnosis.
  • You Value Growth over Perfection: You’re okay with the “messy middle” of healing.
  • You Seek Connection: You want to feel seen and reminded that you are immensely valuable, exactly as you are right now.

🛑 This is NOT the space for you if…

  • You are a Bully or a Troll: I have a zero-tolerance policy for bullying. If you are here to attack, belittle, or throw out hurtful comments toward me or this community, you will be removed. That behavior has no home here.
  • You Judge the Vulnerable: If you mock those who are “questioning” or “processing,” you’ve taken a wrong turn.
  • You’re Looking for a “Cure”: We celebrate our brains here; we don’t try to “fix” what isn’t broken.

A Final Note: > This is a sanctuary. Whether you’re here for the neurodivergent life-hacks, the rave reflections, or just a reminder that you matter—I’m glad you’ve arrived.

You are loved. You are included. You are enough.